Preparing for Your First Gay Sex Experience
There is plenty of stories online about how to prepare for your first gay sex adventure. I’ve spoken about it several times before but the most important thing to do is wear a condom. Sure, there’s things like PrEP and the morning after kinds of pills in order to provide added protection. But these are still in the trial stages.
One thing that many people can’t agree on is how is your 1st gay sex experience going to feel? Will it hurt? Or will it be easy?
Will it feel amazing? These questions just can’t be answered because there’s a range of factors that determine this. Size of the dick, the ass, how relaxed you are, whether they know what they’re doing, alcohol and drugs, and all sorts of things!
So don’t pay attention to these stories.
They’ll all be different as to how it went. Just take your journey how it comes and don’t be overcome by expectations.
SPEAKING OF EXPECTATIONS
It’s important to note that your first time is going to be yours. Going to be unique. If you waltz into the bedroom thinking that it’s going to be just like how you imagined your first time was going to be. Chances are you’ll find yourself sorely disappointed.
Expectations are a serious issue that play with the minds of many people. It is expectations that can escalate to performance anxiety, stressful situations. Or just completely take the fun out of sex.
Relax, enjoy it for what it is an adventure of exploring someone else’s body either by yourself with your hands. Or if you’re feeling a little under pressure go for a simple couples toy so that you can spice up the moment.
Go With the Flow
There’ll be times when they neglect your own desires. And there’ll be times when you neglect theirs. There’ll be times you think it’s amazing and they just had the worst night of their life.
Just roll with it – whatever happens will happen. Remember that it’s a learning experience. Just because you’re a seasoned pro yet doesn’t mean you’re not still learning. Sex is fun because you’re learning how someone else’s body reacts to various things.
Intimacy is not about sex as much as it is about the other individual.
It is all the more about imparting your body to them, kissing, stroking and touching. A first run through for a great many people is generally pictured as a sentimental sexy issue. Where you fall into bed together and take things tenderly and gradually. Simply give them a chance to advance as they may.
Set the night up, if you can, by having a romantic dinner
Get a blu ray film to watch together and set the mood. Put some candles out and make sure it’s a light meal for example, fish or chicken. So you both don’t get all bloated and tired from eating.
In the event that you feel the need to incorporate some liquor, (in spite of the fact that it is not really necessary except if you need to take the edge). Have a glass or two. Don’t get so intoxicated that you can’t perform.
Simply have a beverage or two to unwind you and get you both in the mood for some fun.
Set The Scene
With regards to the room, set the scene a little and make it decent, you might feel the need to use an erotic film to set the mood at this stage. Though it’s not necessary unless you’re really nervous. That means cleaning it up and tidying up the mess.
Make a mind-set that you both feel good with. Sit together on the couch or quaint little kiss. Investigate every others mouths and erogenous zones like the neck, ears, shoulders and back of the neck. Knowing your own body well will help you to know your buddy’s body. And his erogenous zones that are going to drive his passion wild.
There are relatively few individuals who dislike having their neck kissed. In the event that it turns you on it will probably make them go as well!
Lube Is Needed
It is perhaps a far-fetched situation that both you and your accomplice will both be virgins to gay sex. One of you may have restricted or little experience. Yet may well have attempted it sometime recently. Just make sure you’re using lubricant!
There’s nothing worse than dry sex it’ll hurt both of you!
How To Prepare
There is no specific right way or wrong approach to engage in in sex.
Something your sexual partner does to you, or you do to them may not feel good. You might be more a physical approach guy, and he is really into spiritual styles of sex. They may be used to their own body and what feels good for them. Or they’re working off what someone has done to them or vice versa. Here’s where expectations play a part.
Re-explore. Just because you have a basic idea of what you’re doing doesn’t mean you shouldn’t expand on that.
Talking about sex is absolutely critical.
You must figure out how to let each other know when they’re doing something right. This can be as simple as moaning, or seductively saying ‘yeah, I like that. That’s hot.’
Some people don’t like talking during sex, in which case you may need to gently guide them with a hand. Or heavy breathing or indicate in some way that you like what they’re doing.
Put it this way, if they get the impression you’re enjoying it – they’ll keep doing it.