GAY DATE ONLINE GUIDE
There’s a few sex apps for that gay date online. Dating websites online that people are using to meet other guys, to go on dates, and to find some sex for that lonely Friday night. But did you know that you could be the sweetest guy in the world, but net getting any hits off your app?
Why’s that? Well, your profile may be set up wrong.
Creating the Best Gay Dating Profile
It’s sad, but when you’re using dating apps, and instant messenger apps, you’re pretty much in a position where you’re selling yourself.
If you don’t have a lot of confidence, if you come across as narcissistic and with an attitude. Or if you’re an outright jerk, then you’re going to get a lot less hits and responses than other people. Most of the apps that you can download to you phone work on locations.
You stick in your location, or your phone picks it up for you. Or you can set the location that you’re about to visit and set up your hot date for that night or for a few days ahead (as is the case with Hornet). You download the app create a profile and boom, you’re good to go.
Here, we’ll provide you with some of the best tips to ensure that you get the most of dating apps and gay dating in 2023.
1. Avoid Racism
Racism is rife on gay dating websites, and the racism comes down to stereotypes and stigmas. It works both ways as well, racism in Grindr comes in both ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ forms. But at the end of the day it’s still racist. It’s understandable, we all have preferences, but why would you list that onto your profile?
What will end up happening is not only will you be alienating and potentially upsetting people. But what if that hot guy down the road thinks you’re cute, reads your profile and says hey this guy’s racist I can’t be bothered? When you’re in a bar, and someone hits on you, you don’t automatically say ‘Sorry, no rice queens’. You’ll generally just smile, say thanks but no thanks and move on. Or maybe even not say anything, just move elsewhere.
It also works in other ways through the objectification of certain races through such phrases as ‘Only want big black cock’ or ‘Asians only’. Whereby you’re objectifying entire races of people.
For the record, not every guy with darker skin is hung like a horse. True facts.
2. Know What you Want and Stick With That
It’s confusing out there. People will list that they’re just looking for friends, when they have put up a photo of themselves in underwear three quarters naked on the site. In what planet does that say, I’m just looking for friends?
Would you really want all of your friends to know what you look like naked?
3. Giving Someone Your Number
This is an indication of that you want to meet them in real life, that you’re interested in them and that you like them and want it to go further. There’s sometimes this weird thing called the texting zone where things never eventuate past that point.
You’re on Grindr, if you wanted a new text buddy, there might have been other ways. If you’re specifically looking for friends, this doesn’t apply to you. But if you’re looking for friends, but don’t tell anyone that, and your profile gives every indication that you’re looking for more – then yeah, this one’s for you.
4. Scrap the Inspirational Quotes
It’s really not necessary, you might think that it describes you. But there’s nothing better that can describe you than actual words that you use to describe you as opposed to someone else’s celebrity quote. You’re selling you. Write what you like to do in your spare time if you’re after a relationships. Or if you’re after some hot sweaty fun with a specific interest in fetish sex and penis plugs, write that in instead of a quote.
5. Anonymity is Fine
And if you’re after some hot fun you don’t necessarily need a face photo. But it still works out great. It’s not like you go to a bar with a box on your head asking to meet everyone and go to the bathroom for sex. That seems weird doesn’t it?
6. Update Your Photo
Photos are everything on dating sites, and it’s a sad but true fact of life.
Ask someone to take some photos of you, or have one of you best friends come over for dinner. Get some photos done. Anything. The trick here is to have it not look to set up, but natural, without looking like a Photoshop. You also need to ensure that those blurry, dark photos are banned.
They’re not going to sell you.
Studies have indicated that smiling will increase your attractiveness.
So give that a go as well. Make sure that it’s well lit, and that it’s a nice photo. Yes, you can argue that you’re not about the stereotypes of looking pretty. You’re not conforming to the shallowness that is the queer world, but hey, you’re looking for dates and/or sex. Scrub up.
That’s not to say that you have to be of a certain shape, size and muscular stature. There are plenty of people out there with a fetish for chubby sex, or have a particular interest in bodies that aren’t toned and muscular. Key is to embrace who you and enjoy it.
7. There’s a difference between arrogance and confidence
Arrogance is not a very pretty thing. Phrases such as ‘I probably won’t be interested in you’ are just not necessary on Grindr and other dating apps, and it’s really disappointing.
8. Manners
Even though it’s a dating website, you don’t have to forget your manners. It’s nice to know someone’s name before you send naked photos.
Maybe that’s just me though. I could be old fashioned in that regard. In some ways it comes down to what you’re getting out of the app. But I generally feel that if you know someone’s name, or at least attempt to know someone’s name. Then you’re not necessarily treating someone like a piece of meat.
9. Avoid using the terms masc/fem.
Again, we understand that there’s things that you’re into. But in most cases you can block, or remove people from your app that you view as feminine. There’s really no need for hurtful or negative commentary.
Gay Date Online
Following these tips, with a slight sense of humour, is going to increase your chances of getting laid. Better your profile, the more sex that you’re going to get. You’re not going to end up like a chaste male that’s stuck inside a cage and can’t get any action.’
These tips may not guarantee that you’re the hottest guy on the page, but they’ll help in getting you more hits. Remember, above all else to be honest and confident.
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